New Year's resolutions

Every year we choose our new year's resolutions based on the things we desire the most in life.Like happiness or friendship or love.Like money, a good job or a better boss.

We dream and hope that if we work hard enough, these resolutions will become reality.But do we really work to make them happen?

I've first started making new year's resolutions when I arrived to America.We didn't have this kind of tradition back home.If we wish to to something we just do it, we do not prepare for it a year in advance.

But I have to admit, in a world as busy as ours, we can't be blamed for wanting to make plans and wishes for the whole year.

So, I've started with little things, like having sex for the first time with the guy I had a crush on in high-school, or just kissing that math teacher we all hated (but I secretly loved).Moving out of the dorm and into a house with my best friends was next on my list.Slowly I’ve started to wish for bigger things and little by little I’ve made them come true.

A couple of years back, I started to make bigger resolutions, like buying myself that Suzuki Vitara and getting the best job ever, here in NY.Last year I've wished for peace on earth and the will to stop watching porn every night.None of then came true of course, but I think the world is a better place because I wished it so.

This year I wish for a better tomorrow.I know it sounds cheesy, but I really am trying so hard to work myself out of this depression.I wish I will have more power of will and that I wold stand up for the things I believe in.I wish I’ll find the perfect guy, or at least continue the search.I wish I’ll get that promotion my boss keeps talking about.

I wish my love life will improve and I wish my friends will become more aware of my personality.I really wish that the guy from 4B will need some sugar, or a frying pan or something, so I can get the courage to talk to him.

So this is my list of new year’s resolutions.Tell me, what do you wish for?

Urban Myths about Orgasm

I was talking to my friends the other day, over a hot cup of coffee at Starbucks, about a lot of myths circulating the town.It's gators in the sewers, the shelf life of a Twinkie and orgasms.

So I thought that for today, I shall enlighten all of you by debunking some "big O" myths.

Let's start with the general idea that all women crave for a G-spot orgasm.It totally not true.Do all men like chocolate ice cream? No, so way make a general opinion about our preferences?
Yes, most of us like a G-spot orgasm, but it's a myth that all of us want it.Many girls say that the stimulation of their G-spot is associated with a great discomfort.Some of my friend say they feel the need to pee.Some tell that they feel pain, and not good pain, not S&M pain.
Add to this the fact that such a myth transformed into a frenzy for all men, and now none of them really feel like they are pleasing us until the hit the G-point.
So to sum things up : while some women love it, other don't so find out fist what make your partner tick!

Another thing that was bugging me for some time, and now I get the chance to talk about it, it the myth that women really need to orgasm in order to enjoy themselves.I'll tell you on the spot 99% of the world men population believe this.It isn't one of them who evaluates his work by asking wetter or not you had an orgasm.So many girls end up faking one, just to please their partner.You can see by now how this can become a vicious circle.
News flash people: sex is fun! If it weren't, man kind had died a long time ago.Yes we love a good climax but we also love the long foreplay with kissing, hugging and caressing.And all of these are sometimes more satisfying then anything seen on a  porn video .So do not focus to much on how you should end things, but try to make it a very fun/ sensual/ sexy/ romantic/ hot experience for you both.

Last one is about you guys and the myth that says we need a very skilled partner to orgasm.Yes, someone with experience will know just what to do and how to make us explode, but if a women is not archiving orgasm, it mostly her fault.There are many things to discuss here, like psychological issues and anxiety levels that women have.
So even if you are Don Juan de Marco, you will not be able to make such a women reach the big O.

Hope I've made some of you breath more easily tonight.
If you've heard some other myths about orgasm please comment and let's see if we could debunk them together.

Midnight therapy: your girl & porn

Most of my friends come to me for advice on relationships.I do not know when this started, but it just did, and now they all do it.Girls want advice on men, and guys want to know all they can about what makes a woman tick.Adam, my neighbor from two floors up, came to me lat night around 10.I was taking by bubble bath, a sort of ritual I have and in which I do not like to get any disturbance.But there he was, am 25 year old man, sobbing.I was dripping on my hardwood floor, and my hair was a mess, but I could not let him there like a puppy in a storm.So I made him a cup of coffee and we both sat on the couch.
He started telling me the story about him and his girlfriend.A very nice romance actually.She’s a gamer, he’s a gamer.She likes a cold beer, he likes a cold beer.And the similarities could go on forever.
And then it happened.It was one night before, and they were playing some board games and drinking beer with some friends.And then she apparently said to him (out loud) that she thinks porn is hot.
At that moment I was almost loosing my interest in the story.Imagine how a simple word like porn woke me up.I’ve understood she was conservative in bed so this came as a sock to him.
And full of anticipation he went to a XXX store and grabbed some of the first porn movies she set his eyes on.He didn’t want to miss the unique opportunity.So last night he played one of the movies for her....
And as you can clearly understand, if he was crying on my couch, she made a big scandal of this.

He could not understand what he did wrong.(Men!)

So this was my advice to him and to all the guys that think any porn video is good if their girlfriend say they are into it.
Take it slow! You do not want to creep the poor girl out by showing her Asian hentai or “two girls one cup”.
You can delicately open the subject after dinner, while you are cuddling in front of the TV.Ask what types of porn she enjoys.Never ever make suppositions.Maybe after you can go together to a XXX store, or better yet, surf the web for some free videos.Now they have some movies in HD if you want a more realistic depiction.

So take it slow and never forget that if she is at the beginning of experimenting with this kinf of thing, she will defiantly have mixed emotions about it.Comfort her and make her understand it’s a normal desire.

Rihanna - Te Amo + lyrics

This is an awesome song.It reminds me of all the crazy things I did in college.I miss those times, and now, that I work all day long, I find myself day dreaming about those days.
 I love the song, I love the music and Rihanna's voice and the official video rocks.It's almost like the beginning of a very kinky porn video.I'm not saying that I'm into that kind of things (but I secretly am>:)).
But here it is, the song and the lyrics.Enjoy!



Lyrics:
"Te amo, te amo," she says to me
I hear the pain in her voice
Then we danced underneath the candelabra, she takes the lead
That's when I saw it in her eyes, it's over

Then she said "te amo"
Then she put her hand around my waist
I told her no, she cried "te amo"
I told her I'm not gonna run away, but let me go

My soul is awry, without asking why
I said, "te amo, wish somebody'd tell me what she said"
Don't it mean "I love you"?
Think it means "I love you"
Don't it mean "I love you"?

Te amo, te amo, she's scared to breathe
I hold her hand, I got no choice
Pulled me out on the beach, danced in the water, I start to leave
She's begging me and asking why it's over

Then she said "te amo"
Then she put her hand around my waist
I told her no, she cried "te amo"
[ From: http://www.elyrics.net/read/r/rihanna-lyrics/te-amo-lyrics.html]
I told her I'm not gonna run away, but let me go

My soul is awry, without asking why
I said, "te amo, wish somebody'd tell me what she said"
Don't it mean "I love you"?
Think it means "I love you"
Don't it mean "I love you"?

Listen we can dance, but you gotta watch your hands
Watch me all night, I'm movin' to the light because I understand
That we all need love and I'm not afraid
I feel the love, but I don't feel that way

Then she said "te amo"
Then she put her hand around my waist
I told her no, she cried "te amo"
I told her I'm not gonna run away, but let me go

My soul is awry, without asking why
I said, "te amo, wish somebody'd tell me what she said"
Don't it mean "I love you"?
Think it means "I love you"
Don't it mean "I love you"?

Think it means "I love you"
I love you
Te amo, te amo
Don't it mean I love you?